Most people
don't know how to listen
because the major part of their attention is
taken up
by thinking. They pay more
attention to that than to what the other
person is
saying, and none at all to what
really matters: the Being of the other person
underneath the words and the mind.
Of course,
you cannot feel someone else's
Being except through your own. This is the
beginning of the realization of oneness,
which is love. At the deepest level of
Being,
you are one with all that is.
Most human
relationships consist mainly of
minds interacting with each other, not of
human
beings communicating, being in
communion. No relationship can thrive in
that
way, and that is why there is so much
conflict in relationships. When the mind
is
running your life, conflict, strife, and
problems are inevitable. Being in
touch with
your inner body creates a clear space of
no-mind within which the
relationship can
flower.
- Eckhart Tolle
